So as a working mommy (who is also busy immigrating to the Netherlands- story for another time), most of my day is spent on planning, executing, planning and executing and making sure stuff gets done.
This includes brushing kids teeth, breakfast, packing lunches, clean faces and clean clothes. Everything in your bag for work, everything in their bags for school! What is for dinner, make sure it gets defrosted at least.
So needless to say when you are finally driving to school and you look at your angel just to see the nights sleepiness is still on her face, or realizing you forgot your shoes at home (flip flops to the office it will be). The littlest angel did not brush her teeth!! And inside me I don’t really freak out, no for me it feels different it feels like failure, which now in turn makes us shout at the kids, almost crashing the car from just loosing our shit.
So you see as a mommy we feel it is our role and responsibility to make sure all the things above did happen and happened properly ☺. And last night I Realized that by making myself feel like a failure: “I am making it all about me!”
When you think about it, it is not for us to feel proud because we checked, double checked, shouted where needed and got stuff done. It should be about your child, helping them to get ready, helping them have clean teeth and clothes. Teaching them why we should have these items clean and neat.
If you feel like a failure, imagine what your 5 year old must feel like on a daily basis when getting stuff wrong. They fail a hundred times more than what we do and they dont freak out (ok maybe somedays they do)
So for me from here on, no more micromanaging my tasks to the point of failure! But celebrating our failures as lessons learned and being mindful of my feelings as well as my little ones feelings 🙂